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This is the channel where you’ll learn actionable Rich Life Tips that you can immediately implement into your life to help you access your personal power, develop and nurture connected relationships, and master your money mindset so you can LEAD A RICH LIFE. Every video I’ll give you simple tips that you can immediately implement and I’ll provide you with a bonus downloadable sheet to help you deepen your learning.
Today, we’re going to talk about How to Boost Self-Confidence — specifically in the area of self-doubt through negatively comparing yourself to others. As always, I’ll provide action steps at the end, so be sure to stick around.
Maybe it shows up at work—you think your colleagues are smarter.
Or in your relationships—you think your partner might rather be with someone who is younger, more attractive.
Or let’s say you’re a father and you think other fathers are better providers than you.
Or you compare your body to other people’s thinking they have more muscles or they’re more fit.
No matter what version of self-doubt and negatively comparing yourself to others, it has crippling effects on your sense of self confidence.
I know because I used to be the master of self-doubt and constantly comparing myself to everyone around me. I’d put them on a pedestal and myself in the pit thinking that they were better. It led to horrible, terrible amounts of insecurity and social anxiety and it negatively impacted every area of my life and damaged my self-confidence.
For many of us it’s hard to recognize when we’re in self-doubt mode because it happens unconsciously.
Most of us experience this multiple times a day. We compare ourselves to others or we think of an idealized version of ourselves that we want to be like that we can’t attain.
So, we beat ourselves up, become insecure, and it decreases our self-confidence while also inducing our shame and having us resent the people around us.
These toxic responses to self-doubt lead us to having disconnected relationships, to doubt ourselves, to put on masks, to be inauthentic and disempowered.
The first step of liberation is to realize that EVERYBODY experiences self-doubt.
I have yet to meet one person who doesn’t have moments of doing this. Luckily, there are strategies you can implement to increase your self-confidence and reduce your self-doubt.
Who is it that you’re holding on a pedestal and yourself in the pit? Whose traits are you infatuated with? What is it that you’re negatively compare yourself to?
It could be someone at work. You’re thinking, they’re so productive and I’m a mess.
Or maybe it’s your neighbor who you think is really, really rich and they’re so good at making money but you’re not.
Or maybe it’s that you’ve created an ideal type version of yourself and you think, oh by age 50 I should be here, but you’re not. So, you beat yourself up.
No matter what it is, I want you to make a list of your self-doubt comparisons that are running your thoughts.
We all come from the same divine source —no matter how you label it – love, light, energy, God, Goddess – we all have the same traits. What’s different for each person is that our unique history and individuality makes it look different in the way that we express traits.
So, let’s use the example from above. You think the person is productive and you’re lazy in comparison. I want you to list, during your life course, 10 times where you’ve been productive, motivated, inspired, and gotten a lot done.
List 10 times. Think of every you can. Don’t say you can’t think of something. I guarantee it’s there. Most likely it’s in the area where you feel most inspired in your life and the activities you love to do.
What doing this activity does, is that it helps you recognize that you’re negatively comparing yourself to someone even though you have the exact same trait.
Remember, self-doubt and self-confidence are both formed out of our habitual thoughts and actions.
If every time you notice yourself going into self-doubt and negative self-comparison mode, you practice what I taught you in number two, you’ll massively transform your self-confidence.
You’ll start to notice that, oh, I have this too. It’s ok. I do this in different areas of my life. Then you’ll shift your perspective from thinking that other people are better than you and you’ll recognize that you have the same traits – they just might show up a little bit differently in your life.
That’s all for today but don’t forget to go to the video’s description below to download your bonus worksheet to practice what you’ve learned today (Download: How to Boost Self-Confidence - BONUS ACTION STEP WORKSHEET).
This method of owning the trait is something I learned through becoming a trained Demartini Method® facilitator. I use this method with all of my clients and I use it on myself almost every day. It’s completely transformed my self-confidence. It has reduced my insecurity and I almost never experience social anxiety. So, I know it will work for you. Practice, practice, practice and BOOST YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE.
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Dr. Amanda Barrientez is a lead a rich life coach and the founder of ABi Coaching, a private institute that provides inspiration and actionable strategies to help people and businesses reach their maximum potential.
Amanda is on a quest to provide you with actionable strategies that will get you inspired to do what it takes to transform into the most empowered version of yourself so you can lead a RICH life.
She lives in beautiful Boulder, Colorado. You can find her website at DrBarrientez.com.